subtle intimacy is so soft!! knowing someone’s routine and slowly becoming a part of it. memorising favourite teas and soups and drink orders. good morning and good night texts and messy paragraphs of love written half asleep. nicknames only you know. just!!! small things that say “look how dear you are to me.”
anways I hate that “daddy issues” is used to belittle and insult women who have undergone horrific neglect and trauma at the hands of their fathers. It puts the blame on the women who were victimized by men who were supposed to protect them. And honestly the fact that enough women have been hurt by their fathers that the phrase “daddy issues” even exists is really fucking telling.
Remember that even good changes can make us feel depressed, because, as creatures of habit, we’re resistant to change. That doesn’t mean that it wasn’t the right choice.
I’d seen some of these pub stills before but not all of them, imagine middle America looking at this and thinking they were just bachelors sharing a house holy fuck
Cary grant and Randolph Scott lived together for 11 years in their mansion entitled the bachelor pad there are press pictures of the two of them living in a completely wonderfully domestic setting
When Cary grant has to marry as to stop the rumours of their gayness he became very depressed, him and his wife divorced 13 months later
you might not agree but part of activism is knowing to choose your battles, because what do i care if my eighty year old grandma doesn’t know the exact correct terms to refer to lgbtq+ identities as long as she supports and respects everyone, what do i care about the old man in the almacén that isn’t online so he doesn’t know every aspect of feminism who told me happy women’s day when he understands the issues women are put through and supports the fight, I’d rather be met with truly kind and concerned ppl who care and have been in this fight far more time than us than all these articulate young people who at the end of the day don’t truly give a shit
One of my coworkers is in his fifties, has a reputation as the resident “grumpy old man,” and is definitely not always politically correct.
But one time at a work party he said something that I don’t even remember what it is, but it bugged him so much that THREE DAYS LATER (it was a long weekend) he pulled me aside to apologize. He said he was afraid he’d made me uncomfortable, and he felt really bad about it. He explicitly said he wanted to make sure I had a comfortable work environment. He assured me that if he ever said something that did make me uncomfortable, I could just tell him to knock it off and he’d stop. Or, he added, if that was scary, I could tell one of our coworkers and THEY could tell him to knock it off. He was terribly humble and earnest through the whole of it, and I was completely taken aback because, like I said, I couldn’t even remember what he’d done wrong. This coworker also, despite having at least twenty+ years of experience on me and being an expert in the field, has always taken the time to listen to my ideas and engage with me on solving technical issues like I also am an expert in the field.
And I would MUCH rather work with him than any guy who knows all the right feminist lingo but doesn’t listen to a thing I say. The goal has ALWAYS been to treat everyone with kindness and respect, and once a person’s activism gets removed from that, they’re sidetracking progress. The right words aren’t nearly as important as the heart behind it.
“No you can’t come in, nobody can come in” the police tell a member of the press as they let the white supremacist terrorists march in to the capitol past her.
84% of police officers registered republican and voted for Trump in the 2016 election.
Still defending the police?!
She should have just put up a fist and yelled Trump for president and they would let her right through
These are the things we need to save, the footage that must be retained in its full context. We cannot allow them to convince us anything happened differently, years from now.
